WHAT PEOPLE DO NOT KNOW ABOUT SEX

The popular idea is that sex is a biological need on the same level as thirst. If you are thirsty, drink water. If you are hungry, eat food. If you have sexual desire, fulfill it. Professor Sorokin’s prophecy has come true: Sex has been reduced to mere copulation. But the fact is none of us really believe that. We may drink water and eat food at any restaurant in the country, but having sex whenever, wherever, and with whomever does not meet the deep longing of the human soul for an exclusive sexual relationship.

A major national sex survey from the University of Chicago found that 95 percent of cohabiters and 99 percent of married people expected their partner to be sexually faithful to them.8 Something deep within us says, “Sex is intimate and should be shared with someone to whom I have a deep commitment.”

When our sexual relationship is not exclusive, we feel violated. The reality is that married men are far more likely to be faithful to their wives than are cohabiting men with their domestic partners. Research indicates that the cohabiting male is four times more likely to be unfaithful as the married man, and the cohabiting woman is eight times more likely to be unfaithful to her “lover” as a married woman.9
There is a reason why Christianity and most major world religions have a high regard for human sexuality, viewing it not as a biological drive on the level with thirst, but as a gift from God to be fully and freely expressed between a man and woman who are committed.