ways to get out of frustration helping our relationship life
Frustration. It winds you up and can take so much out of you.
Because it not only sucks energy but also distracts you and can
steal quite a bit of time.
So what can you do?
Well, sometimes that frustration can actually be a positive and
can give you a new idea or angle on things. Or it can give you the
power to keep going just a little bit more until you reach your
goal.
But when you start going in circles, when the frustration just
makes you mad or your mind foggy and the day is starting to slip
through your fingers then there are steps you can take.
There are ways to turn such a state of mind or day around.
Into something better. Into something more helpful. And into
something that will make you feel better again.
Step 1: Be here now.
When you are frustrated then you are often somewhere in the
future in your mind. Somewhere you wish you would be. Or you
are reliving a stumble or failure from your past.
Snap out of those headspaces and calm down by focusing your
mind and attention on what is now, right here at this moment.
You can do so by for example:
Focusing on your breathing. Sit down, close your eyes and just
focus on the air going and out of your nose for 1-2 minutes.
Take calm and slightly deeper breaths than usual and breathe
with your belly and not your chest.
Focus on what is around you at this time. The sun shining in
through your window. The kids playing out in the street and
the cars and people going by. The smells and feeling of the
clothes and warmth of the sun on your skin. Do this for 1-2
minutes to get your attention back to the present moment.
Step 2: Appreciate what you do have.
After you have pulled your attention back to where it can be most
helpful focus it on what is still positive in your life.
The quickest and easiest way to do so is to focus it on appreciating
what you do have.
A favorite of mine during this step is the important things we may
sometimes take for granted. Like for instance:
A warm home and a roof over your head.
Plenty of drinkable water.
Not having to go hungry.
Access to the internet.
Your friends and family.
Spend a few minutes on this and you’ll find much to be grateful
for.
Step 3: Focus on what you can do right now.
With your attention in the present moment and your mood a more
grateful and positive one it is now time to get constructive about
what frustrates you.
You can do that by asking yourself:
What is one small step I can take right now to improve this
situation?
It may be to see what you can learn from what frustrates you and
to try another path towards your goal.
Or it could be to try one more time and to keep going (because
not all things in life will come to you the first, second or third
time you try).
Or it could be you simply realizing that you may have taken on a
bit much lately or things have been tough and that you need to
take this evening or a few days to just relax, take care of yourself
and perhaps simplify a bit.
So that you can recharge and then get back into moving towards
what you want out of your life in a more focused way.
Because it not only sucks energy but also distracts you and can
steal quite a bit of time.
So what can you do?
Well, sometimes that frustration can actually be a positive and
can give you a new idea or angle on things. Or it can give you the
power to keep going just a little bit more until you reach your
goal.
But when you start going in circles, when the frustration just
makes you mad or your mind foggy and the day is starting to slip
through your fingers then there are steps you can take.
There are ways to turn such a state of mind or day around.
Into something better. Into something more helpful. And into
something that will make you feel better again.
Step 1: Be here now.
When you are frustrated then you are often somewhere in the
future in your mind. Somewhere you wish you would be. Or you
are reliving a stumble or failure from your past.
Snap out of those headspaces and calm down by focusing your
mind and attention on what is now, right here at this moment.
You can do so by for example:
Focusing on your breathing. Sit down, close your eyes and just
focus on the air going and out of your nose for 1-2 minutes.
Take calm and slightly deeper breaths than usual and breathe
with your belly and not your chest.
Focus on what is around you at this time. The sun shining in
through your window. The kids playing out in the street and
the cars and people going by. The smells and feeling of the
clothes and warmth of the sun on your skin. Do this for 1-2
minutes to get your attention back to the present moment.
Step 2: Appreciate what you do have.
After you have pulled your attention back to where it can be most
helpful focus it on what is still positive in your life.
The quickest and easiest way to do so is to focus it on appreciating
what you do have.
A favorite of mine during this step is the important things we may
sometimes take for granted. Like for instance:
A warm home and a roof over your head.
Plenty of drinkable water.
Not having to go hungry.
Access to the internet.
Your friends and family.
Spend a few minutes on this and you’ll find much to be grateful
for.
Step 3: Focus on what you can do right now.
With your attention in the present moment and your mood a more
grateful and positive one it is now time to get constructive about
what frustrates you.
You can do that by asking yourself:
What is one small step I can take right now to improve this
situation?
It may be to see what you can learn from what frustrates you and
to try another path towards your goal.
Or it could be to try one more time and to keep going (because
not all things in life will come to you the first, second or third
time you try).
Or it could be you simply realizing that you may have taken on a
bit much lately or things have been tough and that you need to
take this evening or a few days to just relax, take care of yourself
and perhaps simplify a bit.
So that you can recharge and then get back into moving towards
what you want out of your life in a more focused way.
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